The shelf.
Good communication makes everything better. These are the books we'd hand a friend, and every one is bought through independent bookshops.
- Come As You AreEmily Nagoski
The friendliest science book about desire there is. A good first read for anyone, kinky or not.
- Playing Well with OthersLee Harrington & Mollena Williams
A warm, practical guide to finding community, going to events and being a good person to play with.
- The New Topping BookDossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
A classic on leading with care. Half the book is really about communication.
- The New Bottoming BookDossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
The companion to the above, on knowing what you want and asking for it.
- Tell Me What You WantJustin J. Lehmiller
A research psychologist's large survey of what people fantasize about. Reassuring, mostly.
- Shibari You Can UseLee Harrington
A patient introduction to rope for beginners, with a strong focus on safety.
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